London Conflict Management
Conflict is inevitable. What causes a set of circumstances to become unmanageable is a lack of control and direction over a difficult situation.
London Conflict Management delivers a dynamic one to one process that re-establishes your own direction over the situation that is happening in the present moment.
Conflict Coaching
Conflict Coaching is a dynamic, one to one, process that supports you to transform a conflict in your life. The advantage of conflict coaching is that it only needs you to participate. It doesn’t rely on the other person or people in the situation.
Mediation
Mediation is a conflict resolution service where all participants to a conflict would like to meet together using an independent mediator to resolve an ongoing dispute.
Coaching
The Impartiality of the coach means there are no assessments or evaluations about you.
The change you want to see is what drives the content of the coaching.
This allows for an entirely different type of conversation, where everything connected to the conflict can be freely expressed and considered without any fear of judgements or labels. A sort of ‘neutral inquiry’ in to your circumstances.
This is the cornerstone of our coaching dialogue that positively welcomes all your experiences, thoughts and observations – to understand the precise details that are affecting you, or acting as obstacles to you.
Conflict can create a feeling of alienation. It can bring doubt and indecisiveness and, no matter how competent people are, that can lead to a feeling of reduced strength.
The possibility of transforming the situation you face using conflict coaching depends on the coach accurately and specifically laying out in detail all the influences and obstacles that you are dealing with in your situation so that you can make decisions and choices based on a greater clarity.
I bring 20 years’ experience of mediating and coaching in many different settings to deliver that level of expertise.
Accurately laying out of the influences in the conflict can cause you to have far more detail than you have previously, so the information that arises should feel like things that you might not have had a chance to think about, or perhaps ever occurred to you.
‘…everything about the way you worked with me restored my capacity. It’s like I was back in the driving seat of my life… …The more I talked, the clearer and calmer I became. I’d say I got stronger, more decisive, right in that moment, which was terrific after months of desperation….’
The reach of conflict coaching:
What can get lost in a conflict is identifying and clarifying in detail what matters to you in this situation; the conflict can overtake what you want to achieve. Your aims and your desires are what drive the content during coaching. I want your experience of coaching to be free of another person’s evaluation: My role as your coach is to create the dialogue to investigate together the details of what it is you want to change and the obstacles that you are facing.
‘…The more I think about it, the more I wish I’d sought this kind of intervention so much earlier. It was such an incredibly honest, curious approach that you took that helped me to query and question what was happening. I’ve never felt so much clarity. I still maintain that everyone needs a Caroline in their life…’
Conflict coaching is entirely distinct from therapy, advocacy, counselling or advice-giving.
Rather than evaluating your past, or drawing on psychotherapeutic concepts, or even having an expert to diagnose the circumstances, my work with you is to re-establish your own direction over the situation that is happening in the present moment.
The most marked difference from other interventions is perhaps that, after 2 -4 meetings, people reflect afterwards that they are now ‘their own coach on their situation’.
‘…You have given me more in 4 hours than I’ve ever got in two decades of therapy…this is gold!…’